Lame Duck

Posted in Ancona, church, family, leadership, ministry, Newsletters at 2:10 am

It’s a weird thing, being the lame duck.

Maybe that’s putting things a little strong, but I first noticed it a couple of weeks ago. We were enjoying dinner together with the church, like we do every Sunday. There was a question about some plans we were making and everyone started giving their opinions. At a certain point, someone remembered that they forgot to ask us what we thought, and sort of sheepishly, half-apologetically asked if we had anything to say. There was no malice. No one was trying to exclude anyone. It just sort of … happened.

In the moment, there was a bit of a lump in my throat as I realized that things are moving on without us. After the initial moment passed, I was so relieved that things are moving on without us! Isn’t that the way that it should be? Isn’t that exactly what we have been working towards since our arrival in Ancona? Don’t we desire to see the believers that God has gathered to depend on the Spirit instead of the Americans when it’s time to move forward as a body?

So with about two months to go until our departure, we are starting to watch things happen from the sidelines. It’s humbling, but in such a good way.
Which is great because we have so much we have to do before we are ready to move! Most everything in our house is being put into one of three piles: pitch, sell, or ship. We are putting as little as possible in the “ship” pile because it costs a lot to get stuff from one continent to another! Heidi is on a first name basis with the woman who runs the consignment store that is selling a lot of our stuff. And I make regular runs to the city’s recycling plant to throw stuff away or donate things that others can use.

Emotions are running high in our house as we get ready. The kids are grieving the loss of friends and familiarity. It’s hard for Heidi and I to know that our decision does have an impact on those we love here in Ancona. An international move with a family of six is enough to drive everyone over the edge! But despite all of this, underneath it all, there is a peace about our decision. There’s a quiet calm and the promise that no matter where we go, God goes with us (a promise that Chloe reminded us of the other evening in church).

Can I ask you all to keep praying through all of this? Pray for the Ancona side of things (the team, the church, our friends here) and for the US side (new ministry opportunities, a new church, and new friends over there). Thank you for going on this journey with us!


  1. Traci Davis said,

    04.30.15 at 7:04 am

    Heidi & Brian (and kids),

    We did the same move 6 years ago this June. I hear and feel what you are sharing and we will be praying for all of you. I remember how hard it was to leave, especially for our kids. They were younger than Cloe and Lance… 6th & 7th grade but painful all the same! Ryan and Sarah now say that each move we have made has been good for them.

    Again, We will be praying for all of you as you do the final packing, prepare to say final goodbyes and especially as come back to the States.

    Traci (Rob, Ryan & Sarah)

  2. Jason Price said,

    04.30.15 at 8:18 am

    So do tell, my friend, where are you moving too? Would love to catch up.

  3. Dee Zick said,

    04.30.15 at 12:57 pm

    Dear Family,
    Yes, I feel we are truly family, all working for the same cause , that’s following the voice of our Lord. Jesus Christ
    Keeping all in my prayers. Our hearts and prayers are with you, and yes, also the church in Ancona.
    May the children feel the protective arms of Jesus around them, as a mother chicken has for her little chicks.
    Love in Christ,
    Grandma Dee
    Central Christian Church

  4. katy mitchell said,

    04.30.15 at 3:02 pm

    Will be praying for every situation in your new adventure with God.Praying for your lovely children to have a good transition. Brian and Heidi to you both strength and calmness.in your transition also.The Lord our God is with you all I will continue to keep you all in my prayers and thoughts. Katy Mitchell from Shively Christian Church

  5. Brian said,

    05.01.15 at 12:46 am

    Hey Traci,

    I have thought a lot about you and Rob lately and was wondering how old your kids were when you all moved back to the US. Odd that we are also headed to Rockford, huh? Maybe we can form some kind of support group for former missionary kids who now live in Rockford?

    Write down all of the lessons you learned in the move for us. We would love to mooch off of your wisdom!


  6. Brian said,

    05.01.15 at 12:46 am

    Thank you, Katy. We appreciate your prayers!

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